Monday, October 7, 2013

Florence Nightingale Says Men Were More Caring Than Women in 1861

Florence Nightingale, the famous founder of modern nursing, who was a nurse risking her own safety to help wounded soldiers during the Crimean War disagreed with a friend who in a book wrote that women are more sympathetic beings than men. Keep in mind that the following are her opinions due to her experience not mine:

"I have read half your book thro’, and am immensely charmed by it. But some things I disagree with and more I do not understand. This does not apply to the characters, but your conclusions, e.g. you say “women are more sympathetic than men”.

Now if I were to write a book out of my experience, I should begin Women have no sympathy. Yours is the tradition. Mine is the conviction of experience.

Now look at my experience of men. A statesman, past middle age, absorbed in politics for a quarter of a century, out of sympathy with me, remodels his whole life and policy - learns a science the driest, the most technical, the most difficult, that of administration, as far as it concerns the lives of men - not, as I learnt it, in the field from stirring experience, but by writing dry regulations in a London room by my sofa with me. This is what I call real sympathy...

I have never found one woman who altered her life by one iota for me or my opinions...

Now just look at the degree in which women have sympathy - as far as my experience is concerned. And my experience of women is almost as large as Europe. And it is so intimate too...

My doctrines have taken no hold among women...and I attribute this to a want of sympathy...

I do believe I am “like a man,” as Parthe says. But how? In having sympathy.

Women crave for being loved, not for loving. They scream out at you for sympathy all day long, they are incapable of giving any in return, for they cannot remember your affairs long enough to do so...They cannot state a fact accurately to another, nor can that other attend to it accurately enough for it to become information. Now is not all this the result of want of sympathy?

I am sick with indignation at what wives and mothers will do of the most egregious selfishness. And people call it all maternal or conjugal affection, and think it pretty to say so. No, no, let each person tell the truth from his own experience.”"Now+if+I+were+to+write+a+book+out+of+my+experience,+I+should+begin+Women+have+no+sympathy."&source=bl&ots=cPYPjur-Z_&sig=00JkQRcWwSq3pgKxA01rs_12G-s&hl=en&sa=X&ei=MOZSUumELobUyQH96ICoBA&ved=0CD8Q6AEwAQ#v=onepage&q=%22Now%20if%20I%20were%20to%20write%20a%20book%20out%20of%20my%20experience%2C%20I%20should%20begin%20Women%20have%20no%20sympathy.%22&f=false

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